Wedding Planning Tips To Help You Stay Grounded

Wedding planning!!! We have a year and a half engagement so we have had a lot of time to figure our shit out if you know what I mean... Even then, it has been overwhelming at times, especially now that there is only 21 days left! I have been thinking back to our first few months of engagement and these are some tips that I wish someone would have told me.

1. Pin a lot, but don't mimic or expect everything to come to life straight from your inspiration boards. There is a ton of really great inspiration online that can kickstart your wedding planning process but sometimes it can be overwhelming and it can also set your expectations a bit too high. Don't get me wrong you most definitely should have incredibly high expectations for your wedding day but it is really important to keep in mind that the wedding is symbolic and the important part is that you're marrying someone really special. You also want to showcase both of your personalities using inspiration from what you find online, not mimic exactly that. It's so easy to get swept up in the Pinterest vortex, but make sure you're being realistic and not stretching or over stressing yourself.

2. Create your own checklist. There are hundreds of checklists and timelines that you can follow but every wedding, every bride, and every relationship is different. Compile the checklists that are most reliable and realistic for your specific wedding day. I printed at least 10 from Pinterest and ended up making one that was perfect for what I wanted my day to be.

3. Let the people who want to help, help, and let those who are uninterested be. I spent a few months at the beginning of our engagement trying to really engage my bridesmaids in the planning process, because I was so dang excited. I didn't really realize at first that there are a few reasons this wouldn't work. Firstly, everybody still has their own life happenings, and while that is common sense, I got a bit overexcited and thought that they would make more of an effort. Secondly, when you have a group of girls that are coming together to support you, personalities can conflict. I had a lot of this in my bridal party which seriously upset me at first, until I realized that they're not in the wedding party to be friends with each other, they're in the wedding party to support me on my day and be of help on the way. You asked your girls to be in the party for a reason, so cling to that. Don't expect everybody to be friends or be super engaged in the planning process because in all honesty, there isn't THAT much to be done that you'll need all hands on deck for other than the actual day. Let your friends and family help where they offer and have one key person picked out that you can ask for specific and constant help (my person is my momma) and let the rest be.

4. The wedding is one day of your life. One very special day that signifies the beginning of your life with your best friend. But please, keep in mind that it is one singular day, out of a thousand more days that you will be blessed with. It is so important to keep this in mind when you're budgeting, mainly. Try your best to keep yourself out of debt when planning your wedding. It is such an expensive aspect of marriage, but there are ways around starting your life together in debt from your wedding. More tips on keeping costs low to come! I will be posting more and more about my wedding planning process as the day sneaks up on us, so stay tuned! For now, I hope this helps you keep some of the important factors in mind. It truly is the marriage that is the most important, the wedding day may be a dream but it is secondary to the person you are committing yourself to for the rest of your life. Always keep that in mind!

Take good care, lovies!

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My Top 5 Tips to Relieve Stress

My 5 Tips to Relieve Stress: In this day and age (I sound so old like I've been on the planet more than 20 years... I haven't) it feels like everyone is on the run. I was listening to Allyssa and Jeff Bethke's podcast (http://jeffbethke.com/podcast) this morning on my way to work and they were talking about being present. This seems to be such a foreign concept, because everybody has so much on their plate and can hardly find a moment of silence. Our world is spinning so fast and it's a beautiful mess, but there are moments that it's just too much. I've struggled with being present and coming back to the moment lately because the stress of a busy life has taken over. I felt like I needed to take the tiniest step back to cool down. So I have compiled 5 things that help me destress that are all simple, logical, and bring you right back down to earth. I hope these help!

  • Be outside. I live in Canada, in the coldest city on Earth, seriously, it's proven. So in the wintertime it starts to feel like you're cooped up with nowhere to go. But do whatever you can to be outside for at least 15 minutes a day. For me, it's bundling up and taking my doggies for a really quick stroll. Humans really need to remember that outside and being in nature is so freeing, and that being inside 24/7 is not natural. Getting outside once a day is going to relieve you and freshen you up for the rest of the day. DSCN0180
  • Stretch. Friends, I used to think I was not the yoga type. Whenever I tried yoga-ing I would rush through it and I never really appreciated how freeing it is to take some silent time to yourself and to your body. I have never slept better, and felt more energized (even on 6 hours of sleep) than when I take anywhere from 3 or 20 minutes to stretch or do a quick yoga workout. For your viewing and educational purposes, view my awkward yoga self with my awkward yoga dog. DSCN0273

I know the quality is quite unblogworthy but Jack was so intent on joining my practice on this particular day, and I couldn't not share!

  • Pray. I am recently trying to find God in my life as I wasn't brought up in a Christian home. It can be nerve racking to begin to pray if you've never learned how but having a few silent minutes with yourself, or with God, will put you back in the right mindset  to get on with your day. Even if you're not a religious person, taking 2 minutes to have a moment with yourself in this crazy world of constant running, will bring you right back down to Earth.
  • Physical activity. You guys I know when you're tired and stressed the last thing you want to do is get to the gym or get your blood pumping, hell you probably just want to take a cat nap (or a hibernation) but SERIOUSLY get your blood pumping for 5 minutes and I promise you it will perk you right up!! I used to try to get to the gym at least 5 days a week, which worked really well for me but I have found that yoga is just much more my thing. Find what feels good, and do that! Yoga is nowhere near as intense as my workouts used to be, but my muscles are just as strong, and I actually crave it instead of forcing myself. Just taking a few minutes to do something really good for your body and soul will energize you much more than a nap, promise. I'll link a couple videos below for you to try, (uh Cassey Ho from Blogilaties****, THANK YOU).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-SN-TQDqWXU (Blogilates 17 Minute Full Body Workout)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oBu-pQG6sTY (Yoga With Adriene's Day 1 of the 30 Day Yoga Challenge "Ease Into It")

  • Be selfish. Most of us are stuck inside doing the things on our to do list every day, but our to do list rarely includes something that is solely selfish. Let me tell you, one small selfish act a day is how you keep yourself healthy, so you can continue to do everything on your never ending list. Read a few pages of your new or favourite book, listen to a quick podcast, bake yourself cookies (and eat them too, no ragrets), put things in your online shopping cart even if you don't buy (or do buy!), pay $5.00 for that overpriced cup of coffee, just take a few minuets to sooth your soul.

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I hope you can take some of these tips with you today, lovelies!

Take good care,

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