Wedding planning!!! We have a year and a half engagement so we have had a lot of time to figure our shit out if you know what I mean... Even then, it has been overwhelming at times, especially now that there is only 21 days left! I have been thinking back to our first few months of engagement and these are some tips that I wish someone would have told me.
1. Pin a lot, but don't mimic or expect everything to come to life straight from your inspiration boards. There is a ton of really great inspiration online that can kickstart your wedding planning process but sometimes it can be overwhelming and it can also set your expectations a bit too high. Don't get me wrong you most definitely should have incredibly high expectations for your wedding day but it is really important to keep in mind that the wedding is symbolic and the important part is that you're marrying someone really special. You also want to showcase both of your personalities using inspiration from what you find online, not mimic exactly that. It's so easy to get swept up in the Pinterest vortex, but make sure you're being realistic and not stretching or over stressing yourself.
2. Create your own checklist. There are hundreds of checklists and timelines that you can follow but every wedding, every bride, and every relationship is different. Compile the checklists that are most reliable and realistic for your specific wedding day. I printed at least 10 from Pinterest and ended up making one that was perfect for what I wanted my day to be.
3. Let the people who want to help, help, and let those who are uninterested be. I spent a few months at the beginning of our engagement trying to really engage my bridesmaids in the planning process, because I was so dang excited. I didn't really realize at first that there are a few reasons this wouldn't work. Firstly, everybody still has their own life happenings, and while that is common sense, I got a bit overexcited and thought that they would make more of an effort. Secondly, when you have a group of girls that are coming together to support you, personalities can conflict. I had a lot of this in my bridal party which seriously upset me at first, until I realized that they're not in the wedding party to be friends with each other, they're in the wedding party to support me on my day and be of help on the way. You asked your girls to be in the party for a reason, so cling to that. Don't expect everybody to be friends or be super engaged in the planning process because in all honesty, there isn't THAT much to be done that you'll need all hands on deck for other than the actual day. Let your friends and family help where they offer and have one key person picked out that you can ask for specific and constant help (my person is my momma) and let the rest be.
4. The wedding is one day of your life. One very special day that signifies the beginning of your life with your best friend. But please, keep in mind that it is one singular day, out of a thousand more days that you will be blessed with. It is so important to keep this in mind when you're budgeting, mainly. Try your best to keep yourself out of debt when planning your wedding. It is such an expensive aspect of marriage, but there are ways around starting your life together in debt from your wedding. More tips on keeping costs low to come! I will be posting more and more about my wedding planning process as the day sneaks up on us, so stay tuned! For now, I hope this helps you keep some of the important factors in mind. It truly is the marriage that is the most important, the wedding day may be a dream but it is secondary to the person you are committing yourself to for the rest of your life. Always keep that in mind!
Take good care, lovies!